Compassionate Communication (also known as Nonviolent Communication or NVC) is a practical, learnable process based on universal human values that helps people connect more deeply with themselves and with others. More specifically it: o Strengthens our ability to respond compassionately to others and to ourselves, and to have others respond compassionately to us.
- Teaches us how to interact with others in a way that allows everyone's needs to be equally valued.
- Transforms blame, anger and criticism into understanding, effective communication, and the peaceful resolution of conflict.
- Helps us stay connected with our deepest values and to live them out with integrity.
Compassionate Communication is generally offered to those who have completed the SSC and SSP retreats. Having deepened one’s relationship with God and become more familiar with one’s inner life, the focus turns towards practically living out the Gospel imperative to love and forgive. At present we offer one weekend workshop each fall, and participants are then invited to join small groups for six weeks of follow-up practice.
The Art and Practice of Self-Connection
December 19-21, 2014
A three-day workshop is being planned for core group members in Boston and New York, and will take place at Cornwall in December. Certified trainer Christine Flaherty, a corporate executive working in a large health care network in California, will lead this training. Her special interests are healthcare, leadership, mediation/conflict resolution, and spiritual growth. She has brought NVC into her corporate setting and is particularly passionate about bringing it to workplace settings. The workshop will focus on self-connection and responding in triggering situations.
Living and Learning NVC Workshop
June 30 through July 5, 2014
This five-day workshop was held recently on the campus of the University of California at Berkeley. Of a total of 23 participants, 17 were Chinese Catholics from the Sowing Seeds network. Veteran trainers, Jean Morrison and Jared Finkelstein, led the group through a curriculum that was heavy with exercises and group interaction. This was the first time Sowing Seeds has gathered people from core groups in both Asia and North America, and people from the eastern and western United States and Canada. Everyone agreed that having a full five days allowed for a much deeper experience of the practice and consciousness of NVC.
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Envy and jealousy
Let’s talk about envy and jealousy…
One definition of the difference is that envy happens when you wish you had something that someone else has, while jealousy is fear that something you have is being taken away by someone else. They can often occur together though, or be one big indistinguishable emotional soup. And, for this writer at least, they’re not particularly enjoyable.
Your partner spends time in contact with her ex, or your partner flirts with people he’s attracted to. Someone you used to think of as a peer has advanced in his or her career and seems to have flown out way ahead of where you are. Your grade-school-age child sees what other kids have or do and wishes he were like them.
What happens if we welcome the envy and jealousy as just messengers from our emotional system? Messengers trying to bring something important to our attention.